Why the toxic “Man Up” phrase needs to stop

Written by GingersEgho

All opinions are my own and will be stated as such. Also, there is strong language in this post. (This post can apply to both sexes; however, I am speaking specifically to the men in most of this post.)

We live in a time where mental health is in crisis mode. We have done a great disservice to each other every single day. Toxic masculinity is rampant these days with this "man up" bullshit. Yea, I said it. Don't @ me, hear me out. Anytime I say "Man Up" in this post, I am specifically talking about mental health, nothing else.

I am by no means attacking anyone with this post. I am just here to state simple facts in a crisis-era to hopefully wake some people up. Let me say it loud for the people in the back...


We have let our men believe that it is not okay to talk about feelings. No, I don't mean how do you feel about your relationship and where it is going kind of feelings. I am talking about how are you doing, really? Are you okay? How's your mental health? Do you want to talk about it? Is there something you need to get off your chest? Is something giving you anxiety? Is something eating away at you?

I mean we have put such a stigma on mental health, that talking about what is going on in your head has made them feel less than. This is not okay. You don't have to have all of the answers. If you feel like you are overwhelmed or you are having dark thoughts, please reach out to someone. You don't have to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders. You may think you do, but it's all about perspective.

At no time should ANY man think that he has to go through things on their own because of this "man up" mentality. That kind of thinking is toxic as hell because keeping it to yourself will eat away at your soul. It will eat away at who you are. You may not think so, but it will change every aspect of your being if left unacknowledged. It is okay to ask for help...that does NOT make you weak. Quite frankly, it takes strength to ask for help.

The three hardest things to say are: "I'm sorry", "I love you" and "Please, help me". - Author Unknown. (I looked and couldn't find who said it. If you know who it was, please let me know and I will update to give credit.)

Please, help us #BreakTheStigma of talking about mental health in this country.

If you or someone you know is considering suicide, please call:
800-273-TALK (800-273-8255)
Or text TALK to 741741
Please visit https://afsp.org. They have amazing resources for those that are considering suicide, those that have survived an attempt, and for those that have lost someone they love to Suicide.

Until next time...

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